Unappreciated Wife Is Addicted to Ashley Madison Dating Site
February 17, 2008
Written By: Woman - 29 - Straight - Alexandria, Virginia
I can’t believe that my life has already ended up like this. I’ve only been married three years and I’m not even out of my twenties. My husband is completely disinterested in me sexually. When we have sex, it’s obvious to me that he’s just doing it because he feels like he should. He’s a workaholic and his career is just about all he cares about. I work out every day and I’m still hot. It’s unbelievable that he doesn’t appreciate what he has.
Out of curiosity and boredom, I decided to set up a profile at the AshleyMadison.com. Maybe I was subconsciously hoping to do something for real, 0therwise why would I have gone to an online dating site for married people? I don’t know. At first, it was just something to do and it was a lot of fun. I had so many men going after me and telling me how beautiful I am. At first I didn’t do anything but read their messages to me. That was enough. But then a really handsome guy wrote me by far the most charming message I’d received, and spontaneously I decided to write back. We had some back and forth, and then ended up IMing each other. I could tell he wanted and was expecting some cyber sex or something, but I wasn’t sure I was ready to go there. But somehow he tricked me into it. He was pretty smooth. Next thing I know, I’m giving him my phone number so we can have phone sex. My heart was pounding so hard when the phone rang. I’d never done that before with anybody and it surprised me how hot it got me. He made me feel so fucking desirable.
To make a long story short, I started up all these mini-relationships with guys I met on Ashley Madison. I’ve got something like seven or eight guys going right now. I keep telling myself that I’m going to limit these adventures to phone sex and cyber sex but I just know that eventually one of these guys is going to talk me into meeting him. Just thinking about it is getting me so excited.
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August 13th, 2008 at 1:40 pm
Great story. We created a post about it here.
http://www.affairtips.com/ashley-madison-addiction-wife-addicted-ashleymadison/52
May 10th, 2009 at 9:36 pm
Dear Unappreciated,
I’m not certain how I ended up at this web page. Now that I am here . . .
I do not know you. We have never met. Years ago, however, if we would have met, perhaps we would be married. Not married in the sense of a happy place, where trust, mutual understanding, communication, family and friends and a healthy life with children and God surrounded us. Far be it from that to fill my previous days with such folly and interference of the passions. I am referring to a marriage where we both agreed that sexual tendencies would be addressed at all times. Satisfaction in the marital bed, with plenty of romance, and so many additions I care not to describe here; for my heart must remove this passion to detail in full. No, I do not know you personally. But listen . . .
Hear from me, the truth of your ways, how I do well know your disposition.
Sometimes in life, we close our eyes when they should be opened. We open them to the areas where they should be closed. Our hearts can be so treacherous, so yearning. Pulling at us, tugging, and pushing towards a consistent craving that is untrustworthy and hurtful. We fail ourselves when we listen and obey its voice. We all have an inherited inclination to listen, to have impure thoughts, to feed the arousal and the passion from within, to sin. To act upon it and awaken to another day of this playful remorse. “I did not love her. I did not know her. Who really was she, this beautiful naked woman who awakened my soul with laughter and coffee? We had just met. I never even met her family. Last night was lustful, filled with so much passion. She did so many amazing things to me. But, she was not my wife. Deep inside, the woman whom I should be opening my eyes to and exposing myself to, should be no other than my wife. This was not her. Who is this? Who am I?”
These words were written upon my conscience years ago. I can still hear them today.
I am not immune to sexual play. I do not consider myself the world’s greatest lover. I can not make every woman lust at the sight of me, though it has happened on occasion. I would consider myself a romantic, a suave, and sexual human being with very tasteful, erotic thoughts. Thoughts that I now have attempted to move some place sacred in my life. My previous life as a single bachelor was well defined. A hard working young man filled with erotic thoughts and sexual tendencies burning like a field of flames. Once the thought had started, it would not go out. A selfish little thought that is inherited through sin. I accepted it. I fed it. I nurtured it. I played with it till it devoured me.
Years later I decided to settle down and get married. The passion came with me. I gave my heart some time to settle before I engaged a mate. I suppose I should have given it more time. The wife I have chosen is a loving wife. She has imperfections just like me. We tend to argue at times over the silliest of things. Things which we failed to communicate about in the first place. We go through the routines of husband and wife every day. However, one thing has been a real issue with us. Perhaps, maybe just me. When we first began dating, she was a very passionate woman, filled with sexual tendencies. She craved me. She needed me. I was lustful to her and she was flattered by me. Notice I speak in the ‘Past-Tense? Yes, what I considered to be love has differed from that of my wife. Here we are now, years later. I am the same sexual person she discovered years ago. Yes, I can calm a storm now, however, the passion is still there to be met out if she chooses to do so. My passion is still strong. Sex, passion, desire, lust and erotic nights are still there. I have heard my wife voice her reasons for why she does not want sex as much as we use to.
I have respected her thought, her feelings. Her reasons for not engaging in lustful affairs with me to the extent that I desire, to me, are acceptable. I have a love for a woman now that I have never known. A real view of people, for who they are as a person, a whole person, not just a one night whore.
Yes, I still love sex. I could probably have it every night, however, my thoughts and intentions must be guided if I truly want to make my marriage last. Marriage must be real to you. You must genuinely love your mate. The sex will still be there. No, maybe not as often. It will be great. You ask, “Greater than if you had it every single day and night?” Yes! Far greater! She will spread herself anew. Her breasts will intoxicate you. The lust and passion will be tenfold.
The love and desire you have been yearning for your mate has been burning inside for her. You have exercised restraint and control of the passions, at that which will come, a night of tasteful intimacy with the one whom you love. You will waken with a body next to you of which you know of, you trust, and adore.
I was helped to see myself in my marriage. To see the the position I must choose to have a real life with my mate.
Please, if you are seeking a release, release yourself here
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20030915/article_01.htm
Sincerely,
An Understanding Friend